... seem to be married to plain jane, fat little women? Happens way too much here in TX.
Tonight I went to dog handling class. The regular instructor was out of town at the Rhodesian Ridgeback National Specialty, and a substitute handler taught the class. Hot damned bear. And on top of that, he had my gaydar going big time.
Well, turns out he was married and his wife was there. Fattest woman in the class with a little yappy puppy. Damned!
See this all the time at places like the stock show and the like. In those cases, though, I think it's a matter of country boys marrying the first pussy they get :)
By the way... I came out (of the bushes) rather late in life. Since 1996 I've been part of the gay community my gaydar has totally quit working.
Never say never, but as a general rule, I don't mess with married men. Experience has taught me that it's not worth the trouble.