how many is "a lot"? how many is too many?

i've recently had 2 experiences that started me thinking and wondering...
a woman i know was talking about a mutual gay friend and she said that i'd be surprised if i knew about his past and how many men he's had sex with. "how many?" i, of course, asked and she replied, "a lot". i said that didn't surprise me and then she said, "i mean hundreds". i said that didn't surprise me either and she looked at me open mouthed as if she was shocked.
then, i was reading something about mick jagger and they made a big point about the fact that he's estimated to have had sex with at least 4000 women. okay? we're talking about mick jagger here. in my generation, practically everybody wanted to have sex with mick jagger so why is that surprising?
me, myself, have always been a big ole slut so i've had sex with quite a few. a thousand guys is not an outrageous estimate. there were plenty of times in my past when i had sex with more than one guy a day. i was once riding a bus and from the time i got on until the time i got off, i ran into 4 guys that i'd had sex with. i live in a conservative, repressed town but the crowd i ran with had similar experience. lord knows what it could have been like if we'd live in nyc or sf.
up until about two years ago, i was pretty much still active, though not nearly so much as in my past, but between ages 40 and 58, i had a lot more sex than in the previous years.
is that THAT unusual? judging by the gay friends i have, i don't think so.

your thoughts?

By rae121452 | 04/23/2013 06:29 PM | 7 comments

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Damm I wish I could remember all of the men I've had. LOTS AND LOTS....LOL And loved it all.

david69er 04/25/2013 01:54 AM

I don't think so rae, I've not hit numbers like Jagger's and some that I've read, but I'm sure that my number would still give your girlfriend the open mouth shocked look. Maybe it's not the numbers but maybe your friend can't conceive of sex with more than one individual?

For another perspective, I crunched the numbers. Jagger is now 69, and I GUESStimated that he became sexually active at 16. That gives him 53 years of sexual activity or, rounded up, 1.5 sexual encounters a week for those years. Is that a lot? If you actually crunched your numbers of sexual encounters over the years you've been sexually active, it probably would not come out to seem like you've been having that much sex. lol.

I'm with the rest of you here, Jagger...nope! I love the Stones' music and showmanship, but that's as far as my love goes.

furball 04/24/2013 03:15 PM

Jagger? Yuck! As far as promiscuity? Had I been out in the seventies I wouldn't be alive today.

hisbiguy 04/23/2013 08:58 PM

I agree with Jacker about Mick Jagger. Although I like the Stones' music and Mick's lips are inviting, I've never cared for his personality, his body or his ego.

I also agree with BearinFW about the shift in promiscuity. Back in the 60's and 70's it was hundreds, but since then not so much and I'm also happy that way.

rjzip 04/23/2013 08:43 PM

Damn, How many of you guys wanted to have sex with Mick Jagger. Fuck he would be one of the last guys I would want to have sex with. But back to the point got to agree with the Bear on this one. I think the older you get, you either become more selective or have less opportunities.

jacker 04/23/2013 07:58 PM

I think the concept you guys are talking about isn't unusual but the numbers are higher than most these days. People aren't as promiscuous now as back in the 1970s .

I know I am not nearly and prefer not to be.

BearinFW 04/23/2013 07:36 PM

I never kept count, but a thousand is a very likely number. Back "in the day" when I cruised the glory holes in the arcades, I would easily blow 15+ guys; up to 40 on a good night. But I guess that doesn't count.. blow jobs aren't sex these days.

PDQuesnell 04/23/2013 07:13 PM