so, i come on to the site this morning and there's a message in my box. when i read it, it's from some guy i've never had contact with, from another continent, telling me that i'm "bizarr".
oh.
aside from the obvious lack of manners, doesn't that seem a bit....i don't know.....bizarre? what would possess someone to just write to someone they know nothing about and say that they've read their profile and find them "bizarr"?
i couldn't credit the message too much because the writer had execrable spelling skills and that automatically signals sub-par intelligence to me personally. but whyever would someone feel the need to just spew rudeness at someone a world away from them and who they'll never meet?
the older i get, the less i understand.
how bizarre...............
my old mother had a saying, "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all". words to contemplate.
and BAYBUBBA: i'm SO glad you like my photo! i was right in the midst of my showstopping rendition of "i feel pretty" when it was snapped. but tell me honestly, was i working the joan crawford eyebrows just a tad too hard?
bi·zarre adj \bə-ˈzär\
Definition of BIZARRE:
strikingly out of the ordinary as:
a : odd, extravagant, or eccentric in style or mode
b : involving sensational contrasts or incongruities.
All of my life I have lived 'out of the box' so to speak. I've always been my own man, sometimes too honest for my own good, etc. Can't remember being called odd (to my face) but have often heard 'wierd' bantered about. Now that I have matured (gotten old) I am called eccentric. Kinda like that!
And rae, some folks could see contrast and incongruities in you. You are a tatooed gay man. Lots of folks perceive tattoos as indicating anything but the lucid, intelligent, caring individual that you are. Lots of folks are like you indicated, a few slices short of a loaf.
Guess I'm repeating what everyone else has said. I consider myself fairly high on the bizarre scale and invite you to consider yourself eccentric. I'll even send you one of my "ECCENTRIC' buttons!!
My mother taught me the philosophy long ago "if you can't say something nice to someone then don't say anything at all!" Actually that line was in the Bambi movie (was it Flower?). I love the philosophy - the best lessons in life I learned by the time I reached kindergarden!
Life happens and we get older. We loose track of the good manners our parents taught us (chew your food with your mouth closed, be kind to others, and "The Golden Rule")... we become more assertive, less sensitive, and many become down right borish! Our language and our manner communicates volumes about who we are and what we have become...
As I draw to a close my 6th decade of life on this earth I have come to a crude bit of philosophy all on my own... that is, that "the world is full of assholes and idiots..." Am not at all sure which is worse... but suspect being an asshole (figuratively speaking) is much, much worse than merely being an idiot. After all, an idiot really doesn't know any better and such a person can more readily be forgiven. Ignorance can be equated to "being an idiot..."
How should one react to such unwanted, unnecessary, crude and unsavory verbal assaults? One might:
(1) get depressed...
(2) give "tit for tat..."
(3) ignore it and move on
(4) forgive the poor language and behave as if the person did not intend to offend by simply poor selection of words...
etc...
Words communicated verbally carry emotion visually transmitted whereas words written can be emotionally charged by their very nature... Generally, for me, I tend to fall on the side of "(4)" above... until I become convinced that the person is BOTH an asshole and an idiot - in which case I go out of my way to ignore the clod as irredeemably impossible to deal with and, therefore, unworthy of a second thought on my part...
Careful selection of words, carefully communicated (verbally in person-to-person transmissions) is equally important as careful communication in the written language we use. One reason that the "official" language of many treaties between countries throughout history was the one written in French is that the language was the least likely to offend. The English and the Russian languages are two of the most prone to offend languages one can experience... But, with social network sites like this one any others that one might be involved with, English is what we have and what we must deal with...
Bottom line... not worth a second thought. C'est la vie!
everysooften
west Michigan
Another thing that makes you so damned attractive!!