Why do GAY men lie about age on the net???

I've heard stories on these site of guys going into the chat rooms here and pretending to be years, and decades(!) younger than they really are. Sad.

...and last night, I was chatting with a guy on another site who lists his age as 25, but when we transferred our chat from that site to msn, he 'fessed up and told me he's really 29. I asked him why he's posting a wrong age on his profile on that site...he hesitated, then typed that he's "scared of getting old" !!! Old at 29? Uh huh.

...and also on that other site, I see at least two guys I know personally have changed, that is, are now lying about their ages on their profiles there...one fellow I know well, who lives in my town and is 57, was listing his age as 53 a few months ago, and now I see he is now listing his age on his profile as 49...hmmmm....if he keeps reducing his age 3 or 4 years every few months, before we know it, he'll be the world's oldest twink.

...and another fellow on that site is the ex-boyfriend of a friend of mine...and this friend was telling me on msn a while back that his ex, who is 47, is now listing his age on that site as 34!

What's up with this?

Why do -- some -- gay men lie about their age?

Any thoughts?

By ginnyrican65 | 04/23/2012 08:43 PM | 7 comments

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I'm a little late in coming to this blog, but it is interesting on many levels...when someone lies about their age, it is sad, sad because if they do meet the person they have lied to, it can become embarassing, and many of you (as well as I) have had these expereinces, it's akin to men who post photos of themselves taken many, many, many years ago...also embarassing when and if they are meeting someone at the door and are confronted with the phrase, "You don't look anything like your photos". Also has happened to many of us (me included). What I do is politely leave stating that I feel uncomfortable being lied to.

Lies do happen on the Internet all the time...it's easy to lie, no one gets hurt (yes, they do!), no one feels bad or let down (yes they do!)

Don't we get enough shit from the straights who want to ignore our existence and refuse us our rights? Shouldn't we be kinder and more honest to our brothers in this "community" we are supposed to have?

Lies do not belong to us and we should not stand for them.

I'm just saying.

polarbare 04/24/2012 10:28 PM

It may be that they have a preconceived notion about what men look like at any given age. And they think "I don't look THAT bad. Maybe I am 50 but I don't lool like most men of 50; I look more like 42." I think it's much worse if they don't have pics and lie about their stats. Or they post pics not of themselves but instead some hot young Adonis. Then they show up at your door looking like Farmer Brown. They may think that you'll give them a mercy fuck because, at least, they went to the trouble to show up.

If you'd like to see some fine examples of petty fraud, check out the personals on CRAIG'S LIST. There is one guy who has been 39 for the past 15 years! Guys with athletic builds. Aren't sumo wrestlers athletes? Swimmer's build? Whales swim. In shape? Isn't round a shape?

God bless you all no matter what age or shape that you are, just be honest.

hisbiguy 04/24/2012 07:34 PM

Don't lie about my age.
I'm 72. Its in the profile.
Like it or not, it is up to you.

bigfootsf 04/24/2012 05:51 PM

I could never understand this myself. I guess people want to be young and desireable. Well, when they find the "Fountain of Youth" let me know. If their purpose is to meet someone for hookups, friendship or more, then if and when they meet the lie is revealed. Do you think there will be forgiveness. Not for or from me. Be a man...we all get old if we are lucky. Who wants to be friends or have a LTR with someone who is dishonest.

UPDaddy 04/24/2012 09:38 AM

Let's get real here it is the internet where you can play any role you choose to whether that role be real or make believe it is up to the individual. Now if it is for the sole purpose of deceiving others than that is not right but it will come out in the wash eventually like the originator of this blog found out. I have only a couple of times actually met someone that was much older or younger than his profile after vetting him out with a few e-mails and when I did meet them I informed them that I was a bit upset and left. I do know some guys that alter their age because they feel that searches by those of us may leave them out so they think by adding or losing years it will help. No matter we have to realize what this media is and not hold each of us to this high standard of truth because let's face it it also happens in real life as well.

barney290 04/24/2012 07:59 AM

I have always wondered why guys lie about their age, specially if they plan on meeting with another person. A year or two is one thing, but a decade is another. I have seen pictures and have said no way. I once questioned someone and they told Marc ( the moderator) and he asked I don't do that, so I don't. I have been a member here for many years now, and have been on other sites and some guys profile picture is the exact same from years ago, including their age. I guess if they feel comfortable with lying, that's on them.
Oh and one more thing, I don't think it's only a gay thing. I would bet my left nut, on the straight sites people are lying too!

fenwaydav 04/23/2012 11:42 PM

Pining for "days of olde..." Meaning, days when the dick was rigid when erect at the slightest hint of arousal... Of days when the testosterone level was much higher.... And, best of all, hoping against hope for a score!

It could be for as many reasons as there are people... It could be because we wish we were younger and we just want to pretend that the soft belly really doesn't exist... after all, one is more likely to remember what was at one time rather than acknowledge was is in the present time...

Reminds me of the pictures of shoppers at K-Mart (or is it Wal Mart?). You know, the pictures of the folks who wear a thong and think they have everything covered (of course they can't see their backside to really see what isn't covered). And worse... people going out in public dressed as if they were 20 when they are clearly in their 60s... and worse...

It is all part of the reality of acknowledging what is, dealing with it, and pretending like it is something else... Of course, there is the anonymity factor in the internet and sites like this one...

everysooften 04/23/2012 10:10 PM