"Let's say you meet a really handsome guy," Lovebeards, a Gay Life forum member, writes. "He looks exactly like a guy, but was born a female. Could you date him?"
Female-to-male transgender/gay male relationships, as complicated as they may seem, are not entirely hypothetical scenarios. They are more common than once may think and are even played out in fictional plot lines. In Showtimes' hypergood series The L-Word, Max Sweeney (played by Daniela Sea) was certain about his transition from female-to-male; but he didn't anticipate falling for a gay man. (For more on The L-Word, check out Kathy Belge's
Would you be open to a relationship with a post-transition man? And what if he's all male, as Lovebeards asks, but has no penis?
Could You Date A Man Who Was A Woman?
I have been privileged to know a number of transgendered men who embody the best, the hottest, and the noblest aspects of what it means to be a man. Through my acquaintance with them I have come to know that being a man isn't simply being born with a penis and I know am a better man because of it.