Either you love one another or your fuck buddie's that live together?

Can anyone tell me or help me understand HOW you can say you love someone then crawl out of bed into some else's? Where is the respect. I was in a relationship for 7 year's. He knew that i would not stand for cheating. I came home on a monday and found out he had cheated over the weekend and i moved out on friday and never looked back. Am i a dying breed?
By lynnbeardaddy | 11/28/2010 08:03 PM | 9 comments
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  • to me any one that don't one person but wants others should not go into a relationship, unless he finds someone that looking for the same thing
    ontmale 12/27/2010 10:03 PM
  • Very sad indeed... ,"It's just them separating the physical act of sex from their emotional part."
    Just stated as above.... Just to sugest that people are separating themselfs from being a whole body.. mind thought substance and soul.... OH... so now we are seperating our minds and our souls, from our sexual parts.
    Well that is very nice that we can give it to our friends in Europe!!!
    I Hunger to you, my friend.... keep your eyes open....
    bearpounder 11/30/2010 05:49 AM
  • GOOD FOR YOU...........LEAVE HIS NASTY ASS. DON'T LOOK BACK..... THERE'S A REAL MAN FOR YOU.... GOOD LUCK IN FINDING A MAN. IF MORE GUYS ...... WILL FOLLOW THEIR HEARTS....... LESS MEN WOULD DYING FOR COCK. I'm still hiv- ..... had my own gay bookstore..... yes, I had a lover at home 11yrs & 11 months. He started doing DRUGS. (weed and crack) BYE BYE his ASS is gone. been single now.... over 10 yrs.... I'm retired and happy. reeldeal
    Kenneth 11/29/2010 08:24 PM
  • I appreciate all the comment's, BUT i bring my belief's in my gay relationship's that i had when i THOUGHT i was straight. I was married at ne time and i have a son. When i met a man that i thought i would spend the rest of my life with i left me wife. And yes it caused a lot of hurt. But i had to be true about myself. Thank god it worked out for all concerned. But i will admit that the relationship did not work out. Most likely due to the fact that he was 20 year's older than me at the time. But we did remain friend's untill last year when he took his own life.

    So now i am happy enough to have fun playing with guy's that just want to have fun. If something come's out of it more permanant than that would be great. I don't think anyone want's to die alone.
    lynnbeardaddy 11/29/2010 07:43 PM
  • 1hawaiian - such judgment, such vitriol.
    eastvanguy 11/29/2010 02:26 PM
  • @ 1hawaiian.. I think you're ignoring the fact that "commitment" has different connotations to different people ;)
    And there is *NO* universal "right" or "wrong" types of relationships. Just what's "right for those involved", like eastvanguy. That's akin to saying your own beliefs/political ideology/religious faith is the only right one and that anyone else not subscribing to your beliefs does not have their "head screwed right", to borrow your own words :)

    And you're confusing open relationships with cheating. Open relationships imply mutual consent between the partners. The fact that they know and agree to having sex outside the relationship removes the element of "cheating"..

    What if in the relationship, one partner is not willing to/cannot have sex? Does that mean the other person is supposed to force himself to remain celibate and avoid any sexual contact whatsoever?

    (I used to be a monogamy-nazi myself before..lol.. now I just respect all points of view I suppose.. I've seen both working and failed monogamous and open relationships.. So clearly, there's no perfect single formula I think!)
    aliencubby 11/29/2010 01:43 PM
  • First of all, what is "cheating?" My partner and I have been involved in an "open" relationship for 25 years now, and it works for us. Having said that, we understand that "open" relationships are not for everyone, so we don't feel our relationship is "right" as much as it is "right for us." As far as we're concerned the only rules in any given relationship are the rules that the partners involved create for themselves. I know many people will disagree with that as there seems to be a strong feeling that there are many unwritten rules. There aren't. Communication guys, open communication is the only thing that makes relationship works.
    eastvanguy 11/29/2010 10:29 AM
  • I agree with what aliencubby says. What works for one person doesn't necessarily work for another, but trust would seem to be an important part and "cheating" is probably destructive to a relationship.
    Carlos1959 11/28/2010 10:16 PM
  • Not a "dying breed".. Just a "different breed" maybe ;)
    There are two "breeds" if you lump them in a broad category.. Those that are strictly monogamous, and those that favor open relationships. You're just from the former category! And I've observed that both camps are vehement about their own side being the "RIGHT" one ;)

    It's all in how the persons involved see their relationships, really.. You believe sex has to be strictly within the relationship, considering it a display of love/commitment, while ones in *consenting* open relationships believe sex can be well.. just sex, and not let it interfere with their commitment. I suppose in the latter case, it's just them separating the physical act of sex from their emotional part.

    In any case, there has to be complete trust and openness between the partners, or else the relationship won't work..
    Whatever makes both (or multiple) partners happy I suppose ;)
    aliencubby 11/28/2010 09:59 PM