FRIENDS

ONE THING I DON'T UNDERSTAND, YOU MAKE FRIENDS ON HERE, CHAT FOR QUITE A WHILE, THEN ALL OF A SUDDEN, THEY STOP COMMUNICATING......SO, I GUESS INTERNET FRIENDS ARE JUST THAT, THE ONES THAT REALLY MATTER ARE YOUR FRIENDS AROUND YOU....WHICH THANK GOD, I HAVE PLENTY OF AND ARE LIKE FAMILY TO ME......
By lino307 | 11/06/2011 08:39 PM | 7 comments
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  • More often than not, my chat friends have nothing to say. "What's up?" is the most common and annoying opening statement. I can spell out what I've been up to, what is planned and the reply is. "Sounds good".

    I such cases I usually just stop communicating, or at best I'll sav "can't chat now" a few times. I'm not blunt or rude enough to tell him that chatting with him is a waste of keystrokes.
    PDQuesnell 11/17/2011 08:40 PM
  • that is so true that so many on here and other place do the same thing.. they just stop chatting :(
    elpapiboricua 11/09/2011 10:08 PM
  • i have make many good friends here.and i have find that if you stop to contact someone of your friends he stop also but in not true
    sometimes if you have many friends is hard control all and you must pick up to chat with fiew a day and with fiew in ather day.but some will believe that you have reject them,is not true just you canot chat with all the same time
    daddysboy1970 11/09/2011 08:30 AM
  • I ALSO AGREE WITH EVERYTHING EVERYSOFTEN HAS SAID......
    lino307 11/07/2011 09:25 AM
  • I suppose internet is a (twisted) reflection of real life. You don't expect to make good friends out of everybody you meet and find interesting in real life. Some become good friends, some remain acquaintances you say hello to once in a while, some you grudgingly acknowledge when you see them, some you avoid, for whatever reason. And most just drift away. It's just like real life in that regard! Just cherish the friends you make, and the ones you value. Don't get emotionally attached to online identities. You never know how many of them are real and true. If, luckily, you do make some good friends you might even meet in real life, more power to you!
    Just remember.. Not everyone you encounter is worth the heartbreak and sadness you feel when you drift away from them :)
    aliencubby 11/07/2011 08:28 AM
  • I have to agree with everysooften on many of the points he raises. haw it ever occured to any of you that maybe one of the reasons you no longer have communication with an individual is that you stopped writing to hime so he stopped writing to you? I often will go into my archives and find someone that I enjoyed chatting with but for one reason or another I stopped so I will write again even after months of not writing. Very rarely have I found that the other guy was upset it is like everysooften said we move on for a number of reasons. I stopped writing to a guy that I had wrote to a lot and then years later I had the opportunity to meet him and did and it was wonderful and we have become true friends now. So I would say don't wonder why or what if but take the initiative and write again.
    barney290 11/07/2011 08:00 AM
  • I know the feeling... If you are like me you wonder "what did I do wrong?"

    I have come to realize some things however. For example, I never second guess that "he rejected me" merely "because of me..." - in other words, it wasn't because of anything I said or did, it was just time to move on...putting a guilt trip on my shoulders doesn't get to the root of the matter... sometimes the reality that distance is a factor and a meet up isn't in the cards hits home, or the immediacy of another opportunity presented itself or any of a number of other possibilities might have arisen...

    While internet friendship is fun a friendship that is only internet-based is just that... If a person had at least met the other guy at least once then a long-distance relationship over the internet might stand a better chance of surviving... After all, friendship is most valuable when it is personal, intimate (not just in a sexual sense), and based on mutual respect, common interests, and shared values.

    I recently attended a gathering of 60 men to learn about the dynamics of how men interact and how they can have a spiritual dimension in their lives. While the gathering was only some 3-hours in duration one of the things that was discussed was how using the internet has expanded the range of possibilities in terms of how people connect. Obviously there were numerous other ideas - such things as finding fellowship at the bar (somebody called it "tap friendship") and ever so many other ideas. But for the most part it was simply laying on the table the reality that men have a unique was of connecting, communicating, and sustaining interest in each other.

    While I have a lot to learn about what friendship is all about one thing seems clear and that is that it can be fun to chat and to learn about other cultures and lifestyles (I once chatted with a guy in Russia and he exposed me to music I had never heard before) but, over time, we drifted apart. The reality was that we really didn't have anything in common - every time the subject of sex came up he equivocated... It just was difficult to sustain interest because things were so different between us. We never said "thanks but not thanks" nor did we say "good bye and good luck..." We simply stopped communicating. I often think about that and wonder if there were hurt feelings on his part (there were none on mine as it was pleasant enough up to the last time we chatted).

    Some people only want to chat. They are letter writers who use the internet as a means of connecting. That is all they want. Nothing wrong with that but it is a challenge for both sides in such a relationship to maintain interest - once again, simply because there may never have been an upfront, personal and intimate experience that could be called upon as a basis for maintaining the relationship into the future...

    I share your concern and believe I understand where you are coming from.

    everysooften
    west Michigan
    everysooften 11/07/2011 01:54 AM