EVERYONE CLAIMS THEY WANT A RELATIONSHIP
FUNNY HOW EVERYONE ON THEIR PROFILE CLAIM THEY ARE LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP, YET THEY MAKE NO ATTEMPT AT ANSWERING THOSE THAT CONTACT THEM, OR AT BEST DON'T EVEN SAY A THANK YOU, YOU NEVER KNOW WHO YOU ARE CASTING ASIDE BECAUSE HE IS NOT THE PERFECT VISION OF THE FANTASY YOU HAVE IN YOUR HEAD...COME ON, TIME PASSES, STILL ALONE ALL BECAUSE OF THAT PERFECTION THAT DOES NOT EXIST..GIVE SOMEONE A CHANCE, JUST MIGHT BE THAT GUY YOU HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR, ITS THE HEART THAT COUNTS NOT THE SIZE OF HIS DICK, THAT IS NOT THE TRUE MEASURE OF A MAN ANYWAY.....AND THATS HOW I SEE IT ANYWAY......
One can have a "relationship" and sex is not on the agenda... the guys simply enjoy each other's company.
For me, I sure enjoy my "relationship" with a hot local guy on a regular basis (he is 45). We play discretely and enjoy our time together. Frankly, it is intense and it is just sex... But, because it is regular and has gone on for an extended period of time I think this can be called a relationship. We are not in a position to move in together or take up sharing a household (for a variety of reasons!). BUT, if our situation was different that just might be in the cards. Who knows? Not there and not likely to get there as I look to the future. In the meantime our "relationship" is what it is - occasional encounters with sex on the agenda!
Platonic relationships are another way to look at how people have relationships. In this state of affairs one might think of it as simply something intellectual in nature. When I was young, in the Army, and learning to drink at the bars on the lower east side of New York City I would spend much time in platonic (at times loud!) talk about every conceivable subject on earth. Beer does that to people, at times! But it was purely platonic in nature. There was no other agenda than a good time, good drinks, and good talk. Then we would get back into the barracks by somewhere around 3 am, fall into the rack, catch a few winks before the First Sergeant would come busting through the barracks doors and scream at us "off your cocks and into your socks! parade in 1/2 hour!" So, drunk or not, 1/2 hour later I was going through the motions of marching with my damned M14A1 rifle at Governor's Island, New York...
Ahh the good 'ol days!
But, now at the grande olde age of 68 my "relationships" have evolved into a dynamic I never dreamed of as a younger man - and what a difference life is for me! My local buddy has done that for me - and more! Thanks to our relationship...
Used as a euphemism the word "relationship" often, I think, infers that the guys involved have (1) sex as a common interest, and (2) the desire to be monogamous and/or take up a common living situation... If they did not mean that, then likely the ad in their profile might read something like "seeking FWB" or "looking for a regular local bud for occasional hook ups and fun..." Call those interests "relationships", I really think some guys have something more permanent in mind - especially when they let it be known their interest is "LTR." Or, better yet, "willing to relocate." Such a guy is likely looking for a shared life with another guy...
So we can think of relationships as those which are on the platonic side to something much more intertwined with involvement with another...
everysooften
west Michigan
I'm single and will stay that way no matter how hard the guy tries to change that
I am after a Santa Claus type man, hardly the example of perfect body type
however I am guilty of not responding to every message sent to me, and I also tend to unlock my pictures without sending any message
I figure if the man likes what he sees he will respond
if not, I assume I am not his type and just move on to the next handsome fellow's profile
likewise, if someone unlocks for me and the fellow is not my type, I just keep going
I've expressed my gratitude in my profile text for winks, unlocks and guestbook signings and I believe that is sufficient
to quote the great Grace Jones: I'm not perfect, but I'm perfect for you
Roy
But I must confess I almost always never respond to the post if all someone does is unlock their photos and wait for me to reciprocate. All that without a simple hello at the very least. Sometimes the main photo is of the person flashing their privates, while the hidden ones are something more.. conventional. Not that I'm a prude in this regard, but flashing someone isn't the best pickup line.. If you think it is, be prepared for the other person to bolt too =/
Most of the time I reply to winks, gropes, messages with two words with a "thank you". If the guy is living in Kuala Lumpur and the message is way to long, flowery and filled with how much he is anxious to meet me I probably will delete it. The guys who don't reply to messages are just rude, inconsiderate or oblivious to common courtesy which is probably a good indication they aren't "the one" anyway. You should thank them for making that clear and not wasting your time.
That being said I don't believe in "settling". It took me 6 years to find my last partner and the relationship lasted 17 years. Mr. 7 years and 9 years took about a year to find.
Cock size surely doesn't make a man and if it defines him, pity that. However sexual compatibility is very important if you want a relationship to last and both parties to be satisfied in the bedroom or playroom. After my last relationship I vowed I would never again hook up with a total bottom yet almost all the guys I meet are total bottoms. And if at some point I want to get fucked, sorry 5 inches isn't going to satisfy that itch.
Yes perfect does not exist, I sure don't have it and have never experienced it. Vision isn't what I look for it is substance. The mind and the heart are on top of my list.
Good luck with your search, love yourself, explore what you have to offer yourself, he will show up, he usually does when you least expect him.