Private Messages
I have sent private messages to men here on DD in place of a wink letting then know that I think they are handsome, hot, sexy or that I like their profile etc..... and I get nothing back from about 99% of the men I write. So I am to the point of just not saying anything at all. Do others have the same problem when sending private messages for this reason or is it just me? I know when someone writes me I always try and respond to let them know that they didn't waste their time sending me a private message.
Have U considered the idea that many guys might not be full members and are limited in the number of messages that they are allowed to send? Perhaps include ur email addy in the private message U send to him--that way he is not burdened with the business of using a freebie to return ur's. Now if he doesn't reapond to U when U do offer ur address, then THAT IS RUDE and gives evicence that he has never received proper home training.
Phillip
That being said I don't take offense, get hurt or feel bad when I send a guy a note and hear nothing back. It is just like guys who flake on meetings or stop emailing in the middle of a hot exchange. The way I figure it they are doing you a HUGE favor. They are letting you know, early on that they aren't worth your time, energy or emails early enough that you don't make an emotional commitment to meeting etc.
I can't remember how many times in the past I have seen this same discussion and it isn't going to change people. Rude men will stay rude. Polite men are polite. Nuff said.
For someone to not respond to a private communication is nothing short of poor etiquette. It is one thing to not respond to a wink. I use winks when I see a hot guy... Distance does not matter - if the guy is hot and I am attracted to what I see - I will wink. If a guy's profile says "winks are lame" or something like that I won't offend him by sending a wink (all that does is show that I didn't read his profile!)...
When I get a note or a wink I always acknowledge the guy who reached out to me... I don't care where he is located. It is just a personal thing with me to respond with a simple thanks and perhaps a comment about the distance... and wouldn't it be nice... sometimes such connections turn into an exchange of emails or skype -
Etiquette applies in person-to-person settings and, while others may disagree, I believe it properly should apply to email and internet sites such as this. Etiquette speaks to one's character and his level of refinement. Why conclude that the rules of etiquette are somehow different over the internet or by email? Strikes me as a cop out. After all, if one extends a complement to another why would such a complement not warrant a simple "thanks for noticing, have a good day!" kind of response? To say nothing is being borish...
Just some thoughts on your post.
everysooften
west Michigan
As a general rule I respond to winks and stuff with some slutty, hopefully humorous reply.