Internet Privacy
I was on Silver Daddies, in a private conversation with a married boi I play with sometimes. I wanted to tell him about DaddyDater because I like the site and there need to be a lot more Texans here. I typed daddydater and my connection to chat was lost. Well that happens there quite a bit and I thought nothing of it. I went back to chat, messaged him again, started to type daddydater and again I lose my connection. This time when I go back I get a message. "you're banned from chat for 2 hours, obey the monitor, no commercial messages are allowed." Well now I'm fucking pissed off. I pay for that site, I was in a private chat with a married man, no monitor said anything about violations they just booted me. Now if I was in the general room making commercial announcements I could see getting scolded and I would have "behaved". But I wasn't I was talking to a friend, somebody I fuck, who has a wife. Now he is freaked because he knows our private chats are anything but private. Silver Daddies lost a paying member because I won't renew, you don't PO me without consequences. And now I now private chat means somebody is monitoring every word, I wonder how they have the time. Have you had similar experiences? Did you think private chat meant private chat?
over the yrs through hit & miss, i've managed to finally get 8 vids through, yet when i try to watch other vids there the number i'm allowed to watch always seems to go up & down. sometimes i can watch up to 7 or 9, other times i get blocked out after watching a single vid.
that was a pain but with trial & error i would sometimes have luck.
the thing that really caused me concern & why i decided to end my subscription there. after being on there a whole year i had never been featured in the gallery pics, until the week my membership paid membership was to run out. suddenly i had 75 emails from interested bros, who i would have to renew my subscription to respond to. i just found that too coincidental. moreover, i wa told a yr after that by another member that u could or needed to request to be featured, but i never received any notice explaining that as a new member. that does of course explain why there are a select few that were repeatedly featured in the gallery, some of whom were there back to back or nearly monthly. i just decided with the combined negatives i was experiencing there & no productive feedback or solutions being offered by webmaster that they didn't deserve my hard earned money.
I have chatted with one of the moderators on this site and asked the specific question regarding mentioning a commercial competitor in the general chat room. My impression is that the DD site is a lot more flexible and forgiving (unless they have recently changed their policies).
There are any number of organizations (many of which are criminal) that troll web sites trying to make contact with people and refer them to “phishing” sites, capture their e-mail addresses, gather other personal information, etc. Thus, the site owners employ software that automatically looks for such attempts by the “bad guys” and shuts down the discussion or connection if such an attempt is detected. For example, if you are playing an online game, and someone communicates with you referring you to a site that will capture your userID and password, it’s not uncommon for the servers to have filters in place such that, when an attempt is parsed and it doesn’t pass the filter, the user making the attempt is either locked-out or banned immediately. They do this to safeguard their users. If the user does get hacked, after all, it’s going to cost them a LOT more money to repair the situation than it does to prevent it in the first place.
That said, the same software used to spot fraud can be used to spot situations wherein a competitor has created an account on the owner’s server and is trying to get users to shift over to a competing service, either by messaging them, spamming in public forums, or communicating referrals to the competitor while in chat. This does not mean that the owner is “reading” the actual communications. It means that he’s programmed his software to filter such communications to prevent “spamming” by competitors in his chat rooms, wherein his competitors are using his server, and his software, to promote their business interests over his. Some may say that since its “private,” that shouldn’t count. Well, if you were working for a competing site, and you kept privately message person after person, telling them to go to a competitor, don’t you think that’s pretty much the same as making a public posting? If you eventually “privately message” every user on an owner’s server, you’ve essentially made a public posting, even if you didn’t use a public forum to do so. Before anyone laughs – yes, this happens, particularly in the online gaming market.
I don’t know specifically what’s happened in this case, but I can assure you that you’ve been snared by automated filtering software. No human being could possibly monitor all of those private chat channels and disconnect the offending user as quickly as you were dumped. The server software was programmed to do that and, as soon as you entered a known keyword or other pattern of characters, it did what it was programmed to do – it disconnected you and it keeps count of those “offenses.”
Might I recommend that you message the administrator, explain the situation, and ask to be reinstated, with a better of understanding of the “Terms of Use” to which you are agreeing as a user of the site? Note that EVERYONE is bound by a “Terms of Service” or a “Terms of Use,” which is essentially a contract and, in most cases, we surrender our rights to control our content when we agree to use the service. After all, if DaddyDater got hit with a subpoena requesting private chat records, do you not think that they’d be compelled to comply with it, or at least try to? You agree to comply with their rules when you use the service. Note that these business owners are not stupid, they want our business, and most are reasonable. If you’re reasonable, I’m sure they’ll work with you to rectify the situation. And, no, I have no stake, business interest, or relationship with “SilverDaddies,” although I have a (rather stale) userID over there.
Private should mean PRIVATE!
DaddyDater is a much better site. Marc, the webmaster is an active member, and easy to contact. Hopefully when you do a private chat on this site, it is just that a private chat!