Friends

How did all of you get past it? When u come out, did u lose some to all of your friends? Or did u keep them? My friends are cool with it about me being gay, but we barely talk nowadays. I feel like we lost touch.
I found great men for friends now
and i'm happy.
Just lost my straight friends.
By GamerCub | 04/19/2011 08:44 PM | 6 comments
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  • I am in agreement with your other respondents in that true friends will continue to love you. Forget those straight friends. Over the course of a lifetime friends, of any orientation, will come and go. When you lose a friend find another. The important thing is that you are "out." There is nothing to hide. You aren't living a lie. And gay friends are more fun anyway. ;)
    hisbiguy 04/20/2011 06:31 PM
  • well congratulations for being kind & authentic with yourself. my personal reality was that i lost some friends & i found others. i also agree with sdpoundpuppy in that those who distance themselves from u after u came out were never REALLY friends. not a better gift u can get then for disapproving individual to get out of your life so u can replace them with better support & POSSIBLY less judgmental friends. lol... your only responsible for doing u, & i encourage u to keep that in focus & never mind the haters. it might be worth checking in on how u may have changed after coming out, maybe u simply outgrew those friends? anyway, be what u feels makes u feel whole & healthy man.

    if that means being a run of the mill masculine every day man that happens to be same sex oriented that cool. if that means u want to be a raving loud mouth got to be seen flamboyant girlie man then that cool too. DO U, not what will make other comfortable with u, their adjustment is there own issue not yours. listen to your OWN voice. yes that means not even using my personal experiences & judgments to map out your route. BE WELL!
    darhar 04/20/2011 11:17 AM
  • Dude, I just made new straight friends after and wrote the others off. It was hard but I dealt with it and I'm no worse for the wear. I'm still the same sports freak I was before the others knew I was gay, I just found better, cooler people that I can enjoy my life with. Who knows, the old ones may come around again, they have here and I never missed a bit of the life I have after them. You'll get through.
    kelleysiland 04/20/2011 12:04 AM
  • I took the + signs out ;o)
    no worries
    Marc 04/19/2011 11:26 PM
  • Sorry bout the plus signs. Its from my phone
    GamerCub 04/19/2011 10:59 PM
  • If you lost friends then they were never really your friends in the first place. It may take a while to come around and some may want to tralk about it
    sdpoundpuppy 04/19/2011 09:53 PM