Gay Marriage - Be Careful What You Ask For

Though I believe that the option of marriage should be available to every tax paying citizen, I don't think that gay marriage is for everyone GLBT. When you consider that over 50 % of straight marriages end in divorce, are you sure that this is what you really want. I think that the concept of legal marriage was invented by a lawyer. My partner and I have been together for 25 years. Almost ten years ago we had our life together blessed by the Episcopal Church with the full approval of the Bishop of Pennsylvania, the first approved by a bishop in PA. It was truly a memorable day! But it wasn't a "marriage." And we are very happy with things as they are. Should anything happen to either one of us we are covered - without the benefit of a license. Should the option of gay marriage ever be offered in PA, I think that I can safely say that the idea would seem redundant to both of us. In closing I wish all of you who wish the legal benefits of a licensed marriage to get what you desire. To those sitting on the fence, be careful what you ask for - you just might get it.
By hisbiguy | 06/27/2011 06:59 PM | 2 comments
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  • It is not about marriage. It is about equal rights! If your partner goes into the hospital and only family members are allowed to visit, you as a partner will not get in to visit. You are not family in the eyes of the law. If your partner passes away, you will not be able to collect his pension. If your partner passes away you will have no say if you want a burial or creamation. That is a decision for the next of kin not the partner. If you are fortunate enough to have children and your partner passes away, you can not collect social security for the under age children. We need equal rights, someplace where we can get a commitment certificate that names us as family and allows us to make decisions.
    How do I know this because I went thru this when my partner passed away last year from cancer.
    KinkMaster 06/28/2011 01:48 PM
  • I think you bring up a point that I agree with. I was in a "gay" coffeehouse here in Rochester when the NYS Legislature (Senate) voted in favor of Marriage Equity. I too believe that tax payers should be equal, but marriage for the GLBT community is another matter all together. I also am very active in the Episcopal Church, having served on the Diocesan Council and attended many blessings of unions. The public ceremony is a very powerful thing to witness but it certainly isn't for everyone. I think most importantly that any two people, same sex or not need to really consider what they are getting into with a marriage. I am rather concerned that if a divorce rate is ramping up in the next few years, there might be a backlash. I might be too worried about that, but there are still other LGBT issues and I wouldn't like to see a gay divorce rate used against the community. I think your statement of "be careful what you ask for" is a very important consideration.
    Wringer 06/27/2011 09:49 PM