In my humble opinion, a "buddy request" is appropriate to send to someone who is your buddy. In other words, it should be sent to a man with whom you're reached at least some degree of familiarity, preferably someone with whom you’ve developed at least a semblance of a relationship, even if it’s only via online messaging. It is not a way to introduce yourself, nor are there prizes being awarded for “buddy whores” who seem interested only in collecting the greatest number of buddies, even if they’ve never exchanged a word with the other men. Just because you think he’s hot does not make him your “buddy,” so kindly knock it off.
And what’s up with men with whom the first communiqué is “so-and-so has unlocked his pictures for you?” Great. Thanks. Those that choose to keep certain pictures private until they get to know the viewer more personally (so as, for example, to avoid criticism or possibly offend others) are under NO obligation to unlock their pictures just because you did.
So, and I’m not sure what others have to say about this, but my personal rules are:
1) If I’ve never engaged in any meaningful dialogue with you, and I get a “buddy request” from you, I will simply decline it without further discussion. If you repeatedly keep sending such requests, I will simply block you (some readers may be familiar with this situation – “No means No”).
2) If I’ve never engaged in any meaningful dialogue with you, and I get a “pictures have been unlocked” message, I will reply with “Thanks,” and that’s all. I will not be offended if you relock you pictures because, quite frankly, I’ve never even “met” you, even virtually in our online community.
If you want to cruise a guy, send him a “wink,” not a buddy request. If you want to publicly declare your admiration for the buck, sign his guest book, don’t send him a buddy request. And until you get to the point where “I’ll show you mine if you’ll show me yours” has been discussed, leave the locked picture thing alone.
Protocols for Buddy Requests and Picture Unlocks - Can we get a consensus?
Who are you, why are you here, what do you want, what makes you interesting and different from the hundreds of other people that view my profile or post on here? Gives us just a few clues, please. Ask you, life is short, I clicked on your profile only to find no picture, no preferenences and no information. I don't have to ask, I already know you wasted my time.
1. Ask to see to see someones cam before requesting. You get more with honey than with vinegar.
2. If you request to see a cam, have a cam to open or able to go to a different site and cam.
3. If someone denies your request they could be busy, away from the computer or just not interested. Move on and stop requesting over an over.
4. No means no, end of discussion.
Thank you
Heck, a wink, a nod, a full blown message, a damn tome--it's all ok with me.
While I understand the point that it seems a bit presumptious to "open the privates" PRIOR to being asked, I think this is just a way that guys "take their best shot first" method of communication. If U don't choose to respond, then don't.
That being said I heartily agree with the rest of your message. In fact my profile which is way to long and wordy says somewhere something to the affect if you haven't bothered to send me an email don't expect me to make you a buddy, this isn't Facebook and we aren't girls. Maybe I don't get it but to me a buddy is almost a friend or if you will friend in training. They haven't quite reached the stage where you will call them when you need someone to tell you to get off your ass and stop feeling sorry for yourself. But you could call them up and expect to be able to see a movie within a week or so. Buddy to me is not someone who lives in Peru, has never emailed or chatted with me and also wants to see my private picks. If you send me an email and I like your profile I will probably unlock the XXX pics. If I am in a good mood because I just fired somebody and you ask me I might. But to email me for the first time and say, "open up your pics" is a pretty good way never to see them.