Walked out on a hookup - did I overreact?

Just walked out on a bi guy in his mid 40’s.

He refused to have sex with the lights on (I insisted yes so I can see you and make sure the condom is always on he talked about trying bareback just once) and then when he was about to enter/fuck me he just rammed it in like holy shit I was in so much pain for those few seconds it actually made me stand up. And he was giggling!

Then I told him nah look I’m done here. I started getting dressed and yeah I was pretty pissed off. He said in a low voice I think you’re overreacting but I was having none of it. I asked are you bi and he said yes why and I said ”because you seem really inexperienced in bed that’s why. Fucking a guy is not the same as fucking a girl”.

What do you guys think?
By Mikey22456 | 09/14/2018 01:47 AM | 11 comments
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  • He assumed you were a bottom that wants to be "taken". He should NOT assume such a thing. When chatting before meeting, those type of issues should be discussed as to "what to you both like and don't like". And you should be VERY clear and specific, especially if certain sexual activities are deal breakers (no water sports or no fisting, etc.).

    If you say, "I like it rough" and he plows right in and you don't like it, it's on YOU. You DID overreact because you were vague. If you both say you are "passionate" when having sex, that is too ambiguous as well. Why? Well, one person's "passionate" can mean a lot of kissing and touching while having sex. Another person's "passionate" can mean aggressively manhandling the bottom roughly.

    If you did tell the person you are not into rough play and they do it anyway, they are a jerk and you are NOT overreacting and it is the right thing to shut it down immediately.

    If the person you are meeting is a Dom Top and asks what you are into and you say "anything and everything" it's on YOU if it goes south. Many Dom Tops that get that reaction from an overly eager bottom will usually respond, "Are you SURE?" and then rattle off a number of sexual acts to see if you still say, "Yes".

    The fact that you insisted the lights be on already implies that you had some trust issues and possible hang-ups to begin with. They may be totally justified due to negative past experiences or it could be unfounded issues that you need to talk to a therapist about. Not knowing the complete details of what the two of you discussed beforehand and not hearing his side of the story, I will say this: If he plowed balls deep into you, causing you pain and giggled about it, he was a jerk...or a Dom Top...or both.
    rusrock007 08/22/2019 05:01 PM
  • I would have reacted the same way.
    jsnugbear 02/26/2019 06:48 PM
  • I agree with yo u!!!! I was married to a woman for 26 years...it is just not the same...perhaps hotter...but you have to know what to do....slow...and when in you can go harder...but slowwww in....and he probably slipped the condom off to give you a good fuck!!! nah...you did right.. by stanting up and waliking out!!!

    his fault...not yours!!!
    nicemandad 10/10/2018 03:18 AM
  • very well done! your right to be respected and the concern fro your health and safety before anything else!
    joevoy 10/03/2018 06:26 AM
  • I like the lights on, but dim, just enough to see his body. and he should realize that an ass is not like a pussy.
    usukurim 09/29/2018 07:52 PM
  • You did good...he was only in for servicing...a jerk....and disrespecting you
    SimeonBr 09/26/2018 07:55 PM
  • You got what you can expect when you have sex with a stranger that you know nothing about. You take your risks.
    Over40only 09/25/2018 04:55 PM
  • I hear you; these pseudo/bi (married or single/in the closet men inexperienced at having sex with other men are usually a fiasco and a waste of time; not to mention they are unreliable; selfish and insensitive of their partner's needs and pleasures. I, however, have met a few outstanding ones.
    I am done with them!!! Stick to gay men!!
    Hunanpu59 09/21/2018 10:05 AM
  • Whatever you are uncomfortable in a situation you should just leave. You did the right thing...
    buzbuz 09/16/2018 07:07 AM
  • He just jammed a condomed dick into you? Unless it was well lubed, OUCH.

    And then he laughed?

    Even smacking a dipshit like him in the head wouldn't have been overreacting, much less leaving.
    AnonymousBlogger 09/14/2018 08:28 PM
  • I don’t think you overreacted. You seem to have been uncomfortable to begin with. His actions after that just confirmed your suspicion, so I think it was perfectly ok to leave.
    jayjo 09/14/2018 11:43 AM