Is it OK to check your boyfriends emails or phone?

If I want to be killed, yes.

TamarindBean 08/24/2014 11:36 PM

That totallin depends upon a very serious reason or evidence of his "playing" outside the "realm".

Raphael 08/23/2014 10:10 PM

I don't have a boyfriend but if I did I don't think I would do that to him and risk the relationship

Gentleman_Jim 08/23/2014 03:08 PM

Only if I had good reason to suspect something.

HtBtmDadLA 08/23/2014 11:17 AM

i would only do it if I caught him in a few lies and things don't add up

mrgee64 08/23/2014 10:45 AM

It is none of my business what another person does or doesn't do...I ALWAYS play safe so if my partner wants to fuck around and isn't doing it safely, he has to suffer not me. If he is doing something illegal, his name isn't on my affairs, knock yourself out. Basically, what a person does is no one's business but their's. This is not the middle ages...no one owns a person, in a commited relationship or not. If you don't trust people, don't get into relationships. Plain and simple. If you are that paranoid then just get fuck buds and don't put yourself in situations with people you don't and can't trust. If you have to check on someone's every move, you've become a mother not a lover. Masterbate and get a dog. Leave people's personal lives to just that, their personal life. Jeez. Everyone and their life does not have to revolve around you!!! Believe me, there is no one that important to me that I have to know EVERYTHING they are doing and EVERYONE they are talking to. Even if it was Jesus Christ himself. I have a life, they have a life. It's called independence. If I wanted to be smothered, I'd buy a blanket and lay under a rock.

kelleysiland 08/12/2012 03:47 AM

only if i had reason to do so.

RobBear357 08/11/2012 06:29 PM

Well,If I didn't snoop on my man,,,we may still be living a lie.I found very strong evidence he was unfaithful while I was at work.

bigfootmerv 08/11/2012 05:38 PM

Only if there is strong evidence of some thing amiss!

da70771 08/11/2012 11:22 AM

Wouldn't care what he did as long as he is being safe. Don't bring anything home.

melito40 08/11/2012 04:15 AM

I would do it only if I had reason to suspect he was doing something illegal or otherwise puts our lives in some kind of jeopardy. Otherwise, if the relationship seems mutually respectful and loving, I would not rick that by snooping.

Riverbare 08/10/2012 04:00 PM

No.

rjzip 08/10/2012 02:49 PM

if there is no trust or open communication then why in the hell are you in the realationship

bearb8 08/10/2012 01:00 PM

I think I'd be tempted to...

People enjoy getting "the goods" on others... it is an easy trap to find one's self falling into.

It is kind of like engaging in gossip at the office - people just simply love talking about another person when that person isn't present.

My preference would be to read the signs in other ways. If something is going on it will be apparent in other ways - sometimes subtle, sometimes not so subtle - the signs will always be present. We do not have to "find the evidence" that something is going on. It will be just as likely a known realization gathered from other things in life... Pay attention to details.

We do not "rise up" when we lower ourselves to standards the likes of which we abhor. In other words, don't do unto others what one would not like done to himself...

everysooften 08/10/2012 11:31 AM

I don't believe in checking on ANYONE'S comings and goings. You have you're business and they have their's. If he's cheating on you then you are not doing a good enough job in keeping him from cheating. Let's put it the other way, how would YOU feel if your boyfriend was checking YOUR e-mails, texts, phone calls? If you don't want it done to you, don't do it to him.

kelleysiland 08/09/2012 10:14 PM

only if u suspect he is not saying what he is doing... Don't snoop could be a nice surprise for u that may get ruined... TRUST is the biggest part of a relationship... Until that trust is broken...

likemyoung 08/09/2012 09:29 PM

I would say no. That kind of thing breeds deep resentment. There are other ways to figure things out without invading his personal space.

BearinFW 08/09/2012 08:41 PM

NO it is not OK! You are sowing the seeds of mistrust and looking for trouble. In any serious relationship each needs his own space. If you truly believe he is putting you in danger with his activities, then you have the right to defend yourself in the relationship. Otherwise, butt out!

hisbiguy 08/09/2012 08:25 PM

Had two assholes who cheated on me. I found out not by looking at his email, but checking history on the computer. He was so stupid. There was so much paper trails. The first BF was before emails, and I use to hear him talking to guys on the phone. Just stood outside the bedroom door, and listen to all lovey dovey crap. Theatre tickets hidden in his car. So yes, don't be taken by guys like this, I wasted 10 years of my life with the first one, and all the guys who knew about it use to laugh behind my back. The second one I married in Europe for 7 years. He was on every daddy site out there, and making dates. He was a flight attendant so the dates were waiting for him when he arrived in whatever state he landed.
Guys, if in doubt. check it out. don't waste your life away over guys like that.

Daddyjim1 08/09/2012 07:48 PM

I respect the right of privacy, but if you are with someone that you care about and supposedly they care about you, then they shouldn't be hiding ANYTHING from you. Doing so just shows that they are cowards and liars.

DAD4OLDERDAD136 08/09/2012 07:44 PM

only if he or someone in harms way

schultzbehr 08/09/2012 06:48 PM