"If you enjoy the younger men, be prepared for some financial largesse on your part; I'm afraid being just a grandpa is not enough! "
I recently got this message on DD from a "Gentleman" that is very close to my same age. His preferred age range is for guys over 57 yrs of age- fair enough. My preferred age range is 18- 45. Preferences are what they are. However, i feel he overstepped his bounds. First , i must state that I look at profiles of many, but never message anyone that has an age range that does not include me. I may sign their guestbook, but have no expectations of any contact. Secondly, this manhas no pics of anything, but his ass and cock on his profile while my profile has no shots if mine. so we are two very different people. Why send a message such as this?
needs and likes of some one are really diferents, that what I think
I just think if you like some one and you have the chance for help him why no ?
if you just find these is a good person and can use the things for the rigth.
our society is also difficult.
many young people are being judged by the actions of others.
I could only speak for myself.
I think loyalty and true love is something that can not be bought, neither you nor many grandparents.
very interesting post ... just was trying to give my opinion ...
pdta > my English can be bad because I have learned by my self
and again sorry if I have bother you
i like you, you have nice body
i like fun sex with you
I say ,to each his own ;in other words people should be concerned about relationship and not be concern about other's .
I t evidently bothered you to even take notice about the other gentleman's statement to you .
Now if you think what this man stated to you ,that is mild compared to what I have encounter where I live .
I am Black and I date both Black and white men ,along whatever appeals to me at the moment .
I have had other Black men who have just met me ,have the audacity to tell me that I should not be sleeping with White men !!!
I had one call me and kept me on the phone for three solid hours ,trying to convince w me that I should only date black men regardless if that Black man is a crack head ,with no job , no morals values ,or aspirations of making something out of himself .
I just smile and let the B.S. roll off my back as you should do with the gentleman's statement to you.
I have never been concern what other people do in there bed room ,as long as it doesn't involved who I am partnered with.
Ironically ,the very man who kept me on the phone for three hours and trying to convince to only sleep with Black men ; well his sister married a While man .
I wonder how long he kept her on the phone ????
like a veteran or a guy with years of experience, some young guys like to play with us older guys, maybe they like it with a Grandfather figure, I for one really like it with a younger guy it is like having sex with my Grandson LOL but most times when I approach a young guy he will just not be interested so I wait for them to make the 1st move, that is a much better way, but what the hell I will NEVER turn a guy away once he is interested in an OLD MAN LIKE ME LOL
We are humans which means we are complicated and can’t really be pidgin-holed. Let’s leave that to the pidgins. If you are not getting the responses you are desiring then perhaps consider that it may be you who are unclear. Understand not everyone is literate enough to express themselves, or understand the written expression of others. Many sees themselves as nothing better than a hole or a rod to stick in a hole. It is also rather common to find those who are afraid to be found out that they are who they are. Perhaps it is part of their scene or perhaps it is simply cowardice.
If you want to make a connection with someone… who you don’t want to make a connection with (That is what you were saying you were doing, wasn’t it?) then simply be ‘gentlemanly’ enough and thank them for the recognition, but clearly state that you are not interested and don’t answer any following contacts. If they pursue farther than your comfort level- write them an extremely nasty note to get it off your chest and then have the good taste ‘not’ to send it.
I have found some incredibly intelligent, worldly, attractive, witty, sexy, imaginative men here @DD right down to the particular kinks I am interested in and within the range I define in my profile…. Isn’t it interesting how we find those things and people we are looking for?
Real interesting responses to this post, but it seems like there are two different things that are being conflated. One is a older/younger relationship, and the other is a hustler/john business. I think Persiancat makes a valid point, in a older/younger relationship, when it comes to money, there's going to be an asymmetry. I guess if a young person had old world values (to steal ac's words), s/he could say that "I won't accept any gifts, dinners, or monetary assistance from you as it would appear I'm profiting from our relationship". OK, that's weird and a little extreme, but holding to those "values" would make the relationship pretty awkward and limited, no? As an example, if Older4UnIllinois asked a younger man to go to a Nascar race, and the young man said he did not have the means to purchase a ticket and Older4UnIllinois offered to buy one for him--then is Older4UnIllinois being a sugar daddy? It seems to me that there's something reciprocal there and reasonable in terms of a relationship/friendship.
I can't put my finger on it, and I'm probably FOS, but it seems in this discussion that there's something inherently ageist about it all. If two younger men, of approximate age, were involved in the Nascar scenario above, the one with the means purchasing the tickets would not be considered a sugar daddy. When there's an older and younger man together then the older man is assumed to be a sugar daddy. That's ageism to me. This site is called daddydater, right?
Last, if Older4UnIllinois just wanted a trick then his profile would state it (and realistically, he would not be here).
That said, there are plenty of older/younger couples out there who are living happy lives together, as couples. It's more to do with trust and love than exchange (or one-way transfer) of money. In the end, it all boils down to the sugar daddy being the john, paying for sex. At least with hookers, you spend money for just one night ;)
It is somehow tit for tat. and you should be reasonable about it
And it's best not to be fooling yourself about it :)