I was wondering how all the men out there feel about entering a relationship with a orthodox jewish bearded gay man.
It doesn't matter whether it's a FWB, long term, casual, NSA, fuck buddy or any other.
Interesting art4you
I am Jewish historically and a born-again atheist. I can and have been a jerk just as much as the next guy. I do, however, try to learn from my ‘jerkdum’ and hope I do better in the future. My spouse believes in a higher power and I don’t. It has been a point of discussion but never an argument. I am indeed fortunate that I have a supportive family and there are certain things that they don’t have to know… like me not knowing about my uncle or who has a drinking problem when I’m not involved. There is a need to know and just a need to be a snoop for leverage. Religion like meditation is a private thing…. even more, it is an individual’s centering time that is no one else's business. Cloths, skin color, and body features are only a cover of the book. The body text uncovers the story that is barley suggested on the outside. Each reader judges its worth… including whether it is worth reading it to the end.
I don't think there would happen anything between me and a man who's self-definition includes religious believes. Unless he just wants sex and is good looking... (that is, before we begin to talk....but usually I do it the other way round).
I held off writing here for a day and questioned whether I should write at all. (Some here might think I am making the wrong choise)…. OK, here goes…. I come from a hasidic family- kosher, full time Hebrew school, tzitzit… the works. No, I’m not at all that way now, but my family still is. They are more educated than most, including a few published psychiatrists and psychologists. They don’t try to change me… or my spouse. In fact, they were all there for spouses’s (the Shaygetz) and my civil union in Vermont in 2001.... Sometimes I think they love him more than me.... My father’s brother was gay and lived a pathetic life trying to be what he wasn’t. (Thankfully he never married or had kids.) I was blind to this and only found out about it two years ago by another uncle, both passed. “No one deserves to live in such misery… you are a good boy and God helped you choose well,” My Uncle Milt told me. Too bad it was at the wedding of one of his grandchildren, my cousin’s youngest. I cried and had to get some air. My spouse told me that the soup course I missed was really good.
You see, It doesn’t matter what race, religion, or national origin he is. Its that ‘what’s inside’ thing, how he was nurtured, and the resulting decisions he made. It is equally about our consequential choices. It is about what attracts you and him first and…. yadda d’ dadda d’ dadda. Two imperfect people need to accept the imperfection in the other and both recognize and accept the imperfections in ourselves. It is the imperfection that keeps us going forward. It is the search for perfection that must ultimately disappoints and tear things apart.
So, “Try it, you’ll like it,” and if you don’t… you learned something about one person and perhaps about yourself.
you think this is irrelevant? ever seen Orthodox Jewish People walk in fact?
One foot always has to be in the air while the other touches the ground, maybe that's a good thing though...
oh and if they happen to nearly-miss-tackle you .. that's probably cos .. "Quote Posted on:18/03/2014 05:44 unquote"
so that's the only thing I'd consider bad .. if you inferiour this or superiour that + people .. or other people or people that are in and/or excluded and all that .. let's just build a circle and do "something square" :P and get over all of that
oh, and this is not intended to be mockery.. I mean the "walk it out" part
I think some confuse orthodox with Hasidic. Hasidic are an extreme form of orthodox and even in some jewish communities not liked. Not all orthodox Jewish men wear beards. As a Jew myself, I've heard all the stereo type descriptions of what a Jew is and most are untrue. It goes the whole spectrum from Top4hole50 ignorant rant and video that makes no sense to Marc's basing all jews on his one relationship that all jews are nice and attentive. The only right answer is the one that bearlyy writes. The simple answer to NYredhead that entering into any relationship will have it's ups and downs whether your Jew has a beard or not. I love when I tell someone I'm Jewish and they say you don't look Jewish. I always respond WHAT DOES A JEW LOOK LIKE.
I am Jewish historically and a born-again atheist. I can and have been a jerk just as much as the next guy. I do, however, try to learn from my ‘jerkdum’ and hope I do better in the future. My spouse believes in a higher power and I don’t. It has been a point of discussion but never an argument. I am indeed fortunate that I have a supportive family and there are certain things that they don’t have to know… like me not knowing about my uncle or who has a drinking problem when I’m not involved. There is a need to know and just a need to be a snoop for leverage. Religion like meditation is a private thing…. even more, it is an individual’s centering time that is no one else's business. Cloths, skin color, and body features are only a cover of the book. The body text uncovers the story that is barley suggested on the outside. Each reader judges its worth… including whether it is worth reading it to the end.
You see, It doesn’t matter what race, religion, or national origin he is. Its that ‘what’s inside’ thing, how he was nurtured, and the resulting decisions he made. It is equally about our consequential choices. It is about what attracts you and him first and…. yadda d’ dadda d’ dadda. Two imperfect people need to accept the imperfection in the other and both recognize and accept the imperfections in ourselves. It is the imperfection that keeps us going forward. It is the search for perfection that must ultimately disappoints and tear things apart.
So, “Try it, you’ll like it,” and if you don’t… you learned something about one person and perhaps about yourself.
you think this is irrelevant? ever seen Orthodox Jewish People walk in fact?
One foot always has to be in the air while the other touches the ground, maybe that's a good thing though...
oh and if they happen to nearly-miss-tackle you .. that's probably cos .. "Quote Posted on:18/03/2014 05:44 unquote"
so that's the only thing I'd consider bad .. if you inferiour this or superiour that + people .. or other people or people that are in and/or excluded and all that .. let's just build a circle and do "something square" :P and get over all of that
oh, and this is not intended to be mockery.. I mean the "walk it out" part